SIBLING RIVALRY
Rivalry between siblings is perfectly normal but this bothers all parents that have more than one child. It can be so intense when children have very close age difference between them and especially if they are of same gender. Incessant siblings’ disputes can be so frustrating and if in excess can lead to resentment and poor self-esteem in both children.
7 Positive ways to reduce sibling rivalry
1. Avoid labelling any of your children as your favorite, don’t favor one child over the other so as to prevent competition between them. Let each child know that they are special and always celebrate their uniqueness.
2. Parents should be good examples to their children because they’re always watching us. Don’t engage in loud arguments with your spouse in the presence of your children because if you do, your children are likely to do the same, thinking that’s the best way to tackle issues.
3. When your children are having heated arguments, avoid playing the blame game, instead, point out each child’s role in the situation. Sometimes give your children space to sort things out on their own then, intervene if they can’t reach an agreement, avoid taking sides, instead, come up with possible solutions together that can help to resolve the conflict.
4. Pay close attention to your children whenever they are playing, so you can step in before quarrels escalate. If there’s any need to punish a child (especially, the older one) as he or she matures, don’t make the conversation public, this can make a child feel so ashamed in the presence of other siblings and can result in greater hostility and disrespect between the children.
5. Teach your children to be empathetic, teach them to put themselves in their siblings’ shoes; so, they can understand how others feel. Encouraging empathy also promotes tolerance, acceptance and build a very strong relationship among siblings.
6. Allow your children to take care of each other, when one of them is hurt, encourage everyone in the family to stop whatever they’re doing and care for the child who’s hurt.
7. Spend more time with your children, you can engage them in various activities, suggest activities that will interest both children. This strengthens family bonds and it helps to build strong emotional ties. Hold family meetings frequently where every member of the family has a chance to say what’s bothering them, this promotes healthy family relationship.
In conclusion, be patient with your children and let them know that friends come and go but siblings are best friends forever.
